Dating can be confusing sometimes, but it shouldn’t hurt. Unfortunately, though, Teen Dating Violence is more common than it might seem. That’s why each February, young people across the country raise awareness about teen dating violence through Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month (TDVAM). The theme for TDVAM in 2025 is: #RespectThat, because everyone deserves to have relationships that are respectful, loving and supportive.
1 out of 3 teenagers experiences some type of dating violence in their relationships. Dating violence can affect your self-esteem, your ability to focus on school or extracurricular activities, your relationships with your friends and family, and even your physical health if you engage in risky behaviors- like using drugs or alcohol. Some common signs of abusive behaviors in a relationship might include:
- Isolating you from your friends and family
- Possessiveness or controlling behavior
- Putting you down frequently, especially in front of others
- Denying their actions are abusive
Whether it’s physical harm, mental harm, sexual harm, or any other form of dating violence— no one deserves to be abused, and no one should have to settle for any less than what they deserve. Some common signs of a healthy dating relationship could include:
- Healthy communication
- Honesty
- Enjoying personal time away from each other
- Making mutual choices
Respecting each other requires us to think and act in ways that will keep you, and your loved ones, safe. We can show that we truly value each other by listening to each other’s perspectives, treating each other with kindness, and honoring each other’s boundaries.
It isn’t always easy to reach out for help when you really need it. Maybe you’re afraid of what your friends might think, or maybe you aren’t comfortable with talking about your dating life. However, dating violence can get worse over time, so it is important to talk to someone you trust about your feelings and experiences so you can get the help you need. If you (or someone you know) is experiencing any form of dating violence, you do not have to suffer in silence.
If there isn’t a trusted adult in your life you feel comfortable talking to, then you could always text “LOVEIS” to the number 22522, or call 1.866.331.9474, or visit loveisrespect.org to chat with a trained advocate who is available 24/7 to offer free and confidential, non-judgmental support, education, and advocacy to teens with questions or concerns about dating and relationships. In Philadelphia, you can also reach out to our DV hotline at 1-866-723-3014.
*Marjorie J. García Sánchez Family Wellness Prevention Educator, Congreso
