Domestic violence does not stop during the holidays. In fact, it can increasedue to the added stress of hosting large gatherings, the extra costs of gifts, travel, higher than usual alcohol use, and family tension.

Police responses to domestic violence have been found to rise by an average of 20% in December, and New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day often result in a high number of reports (Source: National Resource Center on DV).

At the same time, some of the services that are normally available for people experiencing domestic violence might have limited hours or be harder to reach.

At Women Against Abuse, we often see abuse become more frequent or severe right after major holidays like Christmas. Some people may feel pressure to “keep the peace” during the holiday itself, especially when family and friends are present. After guests leave, the tension that has been building can escalate into violence. That’s why safety planning is so important.

Ways to stay safe during the holidays:

– Plan how to leave. If you are going to a gathering with an abusive partner or family member, think about how you could leave safely if you need to. Consider how you will travel, where you will go, and whether there is someone you trust who could help.

– Stay in touch with someone you trust. Agree on a time to check-in and consider choosing a code word or phrase that lets them know you need help.

– Keep important items close. If it is safe to do so, keep important documents, medications, keys, money, and other important items where you can reach them quickly.

– Plan for children and pets. Think about who could help care for children or pets in an emergency, and identify a safe place they could go if needed.

– Protect your privacy. Be careful of shared devices and who can see your location, social media posts, and travel plans. If you think a partner may be checking your phone or accounts, use a different device to seek help when possible.

– Set aside money. If it’s safe, try to save money for transportation or other unexpected needs.

– Remember that support is always available. You don’t have to wait for an emergency to reach out.

Counselors on the Philadelphia Domestic Violence Hotline are available 24/7 to listen, connect you with resources, and help you make a safety plan that fits your needs. You can call the hotline at 1-866-723-3014. Translation services are available. And the hotline is fully operational during ALL holidays, so you never have to face this alone.

This monthly series from Congreso de Latinos Unidos, Lutheran Settlement House, Women Against Abuse, and Women In Transition shares information about domestic violence, local resources, and ways to build healthy relationships.